I think I know now why they termed it "The Terrible Two". Daanya will turn two next month and I think lately she has introduced to us a gist of what "two" will be like. I foresee a year of temper tantrums and probably alot of mummy's voice screeching away trying to keep order. I also foresee alot of disciplining muahahaha....
Actually, the first year was very quiet and a cute phase I think. Alot of discovery my young one had done (sounding a bit like Yoda here!). Evidently we were very proud, content and amused of her abilities and potential. Somehow, now that she is approaching t-w-o, we or at least me, I found her to be very vocal and loud making clear of her demands. She clearly thinks that she can still get away with murder in our house!Something needs to be done and FAST!!! A mummy's patience is being tested here!!!
We lately introduced "time-out" not as a mean of punishment but basically to keep a distance between her and us when she is out of order. Before time-outs, I find that I am unable to control my frustrations causing me to nag non-stop like a parrot on steroids..and I really hate turning into that kind of a mom...so time-outs keep order around our house (Yeah, I sound like I have a household filled with chaos, melodramatic remember???). Anyway, she now knows that whenever she is in time-out she had done something that mummy and daddy dislikes. And get this she actually stays in her time-out corner not moving away. She does of course cry apologetically while she's there and would often try to catch somemore of our attention by pretending to vormit (which sometimes, goo does come out at that attempt), or she would slide herself onto her tummy and pretended to hit her head on the floor....something to that extend to catch our attention but we let a good 2-3 minutes go by before resuming any attention back to her. I read somewhere that when you first introduce time-outs a good 2 minutes lapse will do. And so far this has worked for us. Whenever we say time-out she would immediately response no-no. Or when we console her after and talked about what she did that we did not like and asked her "do you want to be a naughty girl?" she would say no. Of course we hug and kiss kiss and immediately she would find some other way to annoy us...oh well...Anyhow, we are glad to announce that the disciplining period has now commenced....
I do pity her when she's in time-outs and often I'd crumble inside so wanting to say it is ok...but I know sometimes you have to be a little bit mean for the results to go a long way...So I do find myself being a little bit stronger now...the first few times, I wanted to cry having to hear my child pleading but now it gets better (yes, it has been numerous time-outs already!!!Don't let her looks fool ya!). Now, I see daddy resorting into the method too...hahaha this is a guy that spoils his kid rotten....well at least now he experience for himself what I have to deal with everyday and now knows that it is not all fun and games with us. She tests us alot now and I find it essential to let her know her boundaries. At the end, it is the hug that she gives and a peck on the cheek is enough for me to know that we're ok and hopefully later in her life she knows that this is all for the better...
Actually, the first year was very quiet and a cute phase I think. Alot of discovery my young one had done (sounding a bit like Yoda here!). Evidently we were very proud, content and amused of her abilities and potential. Somehow, now that she is approaching t-w-o, we or at least me, I found her to be very vocal and loud making clear of her demands. She clearly thinks that she can still get away with murder in our house!Something needs to be done and FAST!!! A mummy's patience is being tested here!!!
We lately introduced "time-out" not as a mean of punishment but basically to keep a distance between her and us when she is out of order. Before time-outs, I find that I am unable to control my frustrations causing me to nag non-stop like a parrot on steroids..and I really hate turning into that kind of a mom...so time-outs keep order around our house (Yeah, I sound like I have a household filled with chaos, melodramatic remember???). Anyway, she now knows that whenever she is in time-out she had done something that mummy and daddy dislikes. And get this she actually stays in her time-out corner not moving away. She does of course cry apologetically while she's there and would often try to catch somemore of our attention by pretending to vormit (which sometimes, goo does come out at that attempt), or she would slide herself onto her tummy and pretended to hit her head on the floor....something to that extend to catch our attention but we let a good 2-3 minutes go by before resuming any attention back to her. I read somewhere that when you first introduce time-outs a good 2 minutes lapse will do. And so far this has worked for us. Whenever we say time-out she would immediately response no-no. Or when we console her after and talked about what she did that we did not like and asked her "do you want to be a naughty girl?" she would say no. Of course we hug and kiss kiss and immediately she would find some other way to annoy us...oh well...Anyhow, we are glad to announce that the disciplining period has now commenced....
I do pity her when she's in time-outs and often I'd crumble inside so wanting to say it is ok...but I know sometimes you have to be a little bit mean for the results to go a long way...So I do find myself being a little bit stronger now...the first few times, I wanted to cry having to hear my child pleading but now it gets better (yes, it has been numerous time-outs already!!!Don't let her looks fool ya!). Now, I see daddy resorting into the method too...hahaha this is a guy that spoils his kid rotten....well at least now he experience for himself what I have to deal with everyday and now knows that it is not all fun and games with us. She tests us alot now and I find it essential to let her know her boundaries. At the end, it is the hug that she gives and a peck on the cheek is enough for me to know that we're ok and hopefully later in her life she knows that this is all for the better...
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